How to Value and Respect Yourself

Do you struggle with valuing and respecting yourself?

Then keep reading, because in this blog post, I’m going to explain what is self-worth and self-respect and how you can become a person who values and respects yourself more.

Not only that but also

by the end of this blog post, I’m going to give you actionable steps you can start to implement TODAY that will help you to gain more self-worth and self-respect.  And this in return will help you to live a much better life.

Because if you respect yourself, you have high standards about yourself and your life, and so you’ll make sure you will live a great life.


I know it’s really temp tempting to just skip the knowledge side of things – the understanding what is and why you should need more self-respect in your life – and just get to the action steps. But I strongly suggest you INVEST IN YOURSELF and really take time and read a whole blog post to get the maximum benefit.

Knowing what self-respect and self-worth is and why it’s so important to cultivate, will give you the desire and motivation to actually follow the actions steps lay down below.

An overview of content:

1. What is self-worth and self-respect?

2. Why it’s important to cultivate self-worth and self-respect?

3. What to do to value and respect yourself more?

What is Self-Respect?

Before we get to know what is self-respect, I’m going to tell you what it isn’t.

Self-respect is not to be this James-Bond-like person who acts bold and says always the right thing at the right time. Self-respect is not being this perfect person (scripted and fake person).

Don’t get me wrong, I like James Bond’s movies and I enjoy watching them, but the subconscious images we get fed as to associate what is self-respect and self-worth are not true. Keep reading and you will learn why.

OK, so what then is self-respect? What is self-worth?

Well, according to Google dictionary:

How to value and respect yourself

(Self-respect, self-worth, self-esteem they are linked together.)

Self-respect and self-worth is when one (you) respect and value yourself and your life. It has nothing to do with others and how others perceive you. It’s your own self-respect and self-worth about yourself (your self-image) how YOU see yourself.

Value and respect yourself

Self-respect is when you have a thought to do something, and you say to yourself, “I’m going to do it” and then you actually do it. You respect your word and promises; you trust yourself, you respect yourself.

Self-respect is when you don’t accept when other people treat you poorly. You just can’t accept that because you respect yourself; you value and respect yourself.

Self-respect is when you make sure your life is great, because again, you respect and VALUE YOURSELF. You can’t accept not living a great life.

Do you see guys where I’m going with this?

In Maxwell Maltz book Psycho-Cybernetics (you can read it for free here), he talked in great detail about self-image and how our self-image basically creates our reality.

Not to manifest out-of-thin-air way, but, based on all the variations we find ourselves surrounded in, we will always make sure that the way we see ourselves will = how we will live, which will = our world (our life).

So, it’s vitally important for a person to work on himself to improve his self-image.

Why it’s important to value and respect yourself?

How to value and respect yourself

Because how you see yourself will determine how you will treat yourself and live your life. Real actual people in real life who respects themselves and treat themselves well make sure their life is great.

When you truly respect yourself, there are things that you just can’t allow to happen. When you truly value yourself, you can’t waste your time doing pointless activities that don’t give you anything in return.

For you then – this is a waste of your time.

When you truly respect and value yourself, you can’t dress and look bad, for you then – this is not acceptable.

When you truly respect yourself, you make sure other people respect you, and as you respect yourself – as this is your world – you will respect other people and they will respect you.

Now, for those who have a difficult time to respect themselves but really would like to, don’t worry. You can grow into this person. You know that you can. Can you imagine yourself living your life in that way?

If you can imagine, it’s possible. But there needs to be done some work first.

What to do to Value and Respect Yourself?

I’m a deep guy; I think deep and have watched countless videos about human biology and psychology.

So, what I’m going to give you here will not be just some random advice and tips on how to think differently.


What I’m going to give you here is the whole process I’m using myself.

This process can help you to reprogram yourself and see yourself differently to experience the benefit that comes when you TRULY respect and value yourself.

I came from a family where my mother struggled with self-value and self-respect, and so for me, this was something I needed to work on myself from a ground level. I’m still in the process, but I’m in a much, much better place now.

And you can too if you do the process what I’m going to share here.

The process I’m going to share can help anybody to grow into this person who values and respect himself more. It’s based on science and reality.

The process to reprogram oneself to value and respect himself/herself more.

I’m not going into too much detail about the whole process how we program our brains, as it will take too much space, and I don’t see a need to do it. But if you want, you can find more info here.

But basically, the way get programmed are in 3 ways:

1. Authority

2. Repetition

3. Intensity

We are going to use all 3 to succeed in our intention: to reprogram our minds and our perception in a way that we live our life as a person who truly values and respect himself.

1. Follow and admire those who you want to be alike

The reason why so many of us struggle with valuing and respecting ourselves is that we didn’t learn that early on in our life. We didn’t learn it from our parents what it means to value and respect ourselves. And we don’t hang out with people who value and respect themselves either, so we don’t have this outside example of how it looks like when we truly value and respect ourselves.

The way we live our life = the way we have learned so far how to live. The results we get from our life = the way we have lived our life. So, in order to live a different life, we need to change how we think and behave.

How to value and respect yourself

Now, if you don’t know anyone in real life who is respecting and valuing herself/ himself, you can find people on the internet. One person I know is Dan Lok (you can find his Youtube channel here). He is a very successful guy who respects and values himself. Try to listen to him. If you don’t like that guy, just find someone else who possess these qualities and just observe and listen to them.

Take in their mindset and beliefs because the way they think and behave is the result of the life they live.

We all play the same game of life; therefore, people who succeed and win in life are the ones who THINK and BEHAVE differently.  Therefore get different results. Make sense?

It’s very beneficial to watch and listen to those people on a continuous basis. It’ll work best if you really like the person, as it will increase the intensity.

2. Reprogram Your Subconscious With Subliminal Messages 

The other way is to take in your brains (program yourself by choice) messages that people who value and respect themselves believe in and live by and keep repeating those messages over and over again.


Find on Youtube videos that have these messages. For example this one or this one. Or you can sometimes listen to slower ones like this one They are different but very good as well because a person guides you slowly through every affirmation.

Or you can just invest in yourself and save yourself time and energy and buy already made self-talk series that are optimized towards specific outcome like this one.

I have listened to many self-talk audio programs, and The Ultimate Self-Talk Series made by Bradley Thompson, I find is the best one.

For maximum effect, listen before going to sleep. When you lay down in your bed and you’re ready to going  sleep, your brains switch from alpha to theta brain waves, and so the messages you listen to goes deeper in your subconscious mind.

And all you need to do is to listen to these messages over and over again.
Not just listen and think something else. You need to record those messages in with your conscious mind.

When you listen to those messages, actually listen to those messages – focus on those messages and listen. You can try to repeat them in your head if you have difficulties to just focus and listen – that is, you think some other stuff.

Now, repeat this process for days, and you will start to see the difference in your thinking and overall perception.

3. Be that YOU you want to be

The last thing you could do is to actually LIVE in that way how YOU who values and respects yourself would live. You don’t hope and pray for your subconscious mind to take over but rather consciously decide to live differently.

Personally, I use these subliminal messages as a reference point as to how I should live than just to listen and hope that things will magically change.

There is no power and control there.

Actually take power and control over your life and LIVE in the way a person who respects and values himself would live.

Now, this is some really serious work and will take a lot of effort and conscious living, for a while, but imagine the benefit you will get…

I mean living your life the way you like… valuing yourself, respecting yourself to go after what you want with an attitude: “I want it and I’ll get it.”

Don't stop until you get what you want

I think is worth putting needed effort.

Respecting and valuing yourself is a must if you want to live the life you want to live.

And it’s not that hard to do.

I lay down the path. It’s simple and works. It’s based on science and if you would take a moment and just look at your life, you can see this is what was missing.

The key is to do this process long enough, so you grow into this person who respects and values himself/herself more.

It’s not typical advice to think now differently and change your whole being in a day.


I’m giving you a proven, on science-based, lay-down path you can follow to work on yourself to become a person who values and respect himself/herself more.

And there are levels to how much you can value and respect yourself. Obviously, emperors and kings were the ones who value themselves highly. But to live a better life and go towards what you want, you don’t need to see yourself as a king.

You just need to work on yourself enough to feel worthy of what it is you want in life. Even simple acknowledgment can help.

Now living your life more consciously based on the “you” who values and respects yourself is the key.

Living consciously in this way for a while is all you need to do.

Following people alike, listening to messages that are alike, and actually living alike is what will create the necessary change in your life.

To your ultimate success!

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How to Value and Respect Yourself by

Sany Fox

(the success guy)

On the mission to motivate, inspire, educate, and empower millions of people to live a better life.


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